Being dumped is never any fun! And if you find yourself saying, “he dumped me”, then you know exactly what I’m talking about. Right now you may wonder if and how you will ever get over it. To make matters worse, you may be questioning whether or not you will ever find love again. And while the situation may seem really bad now, there are certain things you can do to make it better.
Right now you have a decision to make. You can either live in a fantasy world, or you can deal with reality. The fantasy world is where you pretend like nothing happened, that your ex still loves you with all of their heart, or that they will come crawling back to you once you are able to plead your case. Hogwash! Sorry, but while those thoughts may give you some comfort, they will not help you to move forward. No, what you need is to be real.
The first step to facing reality is to be completely honest. That means being honest with your ex, honest with yourself, and honest about the relationship. Nobody is saying that this will be easy, but it is necessary. You have to know exactly what the problems surrounding your relationship were before you can have any chance of fixing them. And that simply can’t happen if you’re deluding yourself.
You have friends and family, so be sure to go to them for support. However, you should also consider increasing the size of your support network. This can include a counselor, psychologist, clergy, or anybody else willing to help you. Again, going through a break up isn’t easy, but getting help and support from people that care about you will make it a lot less difficult.
“He dumped me” may be the phrase that keeps running through your head, but that’s not helping either. So, you need to do whatever you can to stop that voice from playing in your head. It will only make you feel worse. Go out with friends and have some fun. There’s no need to feel guilty about having a good time without your ex…after all, they are your ex which means they have no say in what you do with your free time. Getting a new hobby or volunteering are also good options for getting your mind to think about different things.
Be patient. The pain of a break up will be at its absolute strongest immediately after it happens. Then, as time goes on, it will bother you less and less. There is no substitute for time, but it can work wonders. So look ahead to the future and know there will come a time when the sting of splitting up won’t be so strong. It may be hard to believe right now, but there have been millions of people before you who found that time really was on their side when all was said and done.